Every now and then, relationships go bad. The first thing that most people would want to know is who was wrong. Sometimes it’s hard to know who to blame. In fact, in some cases, both partners share equal blame. Let’s take a look at these 9 relationship scenarios and examine who is wrong. After reading the argument, decide who you think caused the trouble. Perhaps, critically thinking about them can also help you to avoid similar troubles in your own relationship.
#1. Botswe and Adeola
Botswe and Adeola have decided to take their relationship to the next level. They started planning their wedding, and Botswe told Adeola that he would like to have a small wedding. Adeola’s family opted to be a part of the planning and seem to be taking over everything. Botswe is still okay with that until he finds out that they are planning a large wedding. He confronts Adeola about it, and she sides with them, telling Botswe that they are only trying to help. She goes further to say that they have a right to do whatever they like because they are handling most of the wedding expenses. Botswe decided to call off the wedding. Who is wrong?
#2. Kojo and Daliah
Daliah and Kojo have been married for five years now and have two kids. They both have full-time jobs and rarely get to spend quality time with the kids. They both get worried about this and decide to talk. Daliah suggests getting a nanny, but Kojo doesn’t subscribe to that idea. Instead, he suggests that one of them gets a part-time job. They go back and forth but do not conclude. However, they plan to continue this talk some other time, then arrive at a decision that suits them both. Some days later, Kojo closes early from work and comes home to meet a nanny. He gets furious and sends her away. He later confronts Dalia about this, and she says that she’s been overwhelmed with work and the kids, then storms out while Kojo was trying to speak. Who is wrong?
#3. Chidi and Nnenna
Nnenna and Chidi’s relationship has lasted three years, and Chidi thinks it’s high time they settle down together. They start making crucial plans for their future family but aren’t having it easy. Chidi wants children while Nnenna doesn’t. Nnenna tries to explain her reason, but Chidi doesn’t understand her. Instead, Chidi insists that he wants to have his own kids, majorly because his mum wants grandkids. As they argue, Chidi gets angry and uses some harsh words on Nnenna. Nnenna feels hurt. Chidi tries to plead but she calls off the relationship. Who is wrong?
#4. Olaitan and Makena
A friend of Makena discloses to Olaitan, Makena’s boyfriend of 4 months, that she’s been having an affair with her ex-boyfriend. Olaitan feels hurt and confronts Makena about this. Makena blames Olaitan for this, refuses to apologize, and complains about their boring sex life. Olaitan tries to take his revenge by sleeping with Makena’s friend. She finds out and breaks up with him. Who is wrong?
#5. Kwame and Taraji
Kwame has been dating Taraji for months, and it seems things are beginning to get serious. Kwame has recently talked about making things official, but Taraji has a secret she needs to tell him first. Taraji musters some courage and tells Kwame that she had a child with her first boyfriend and the little kid lives with her mum. Kwame feels betrayed in their relationship and thinks Taraji was wrong for keeping such a huge thing from him. Taraji says that she didn’t think it was necessary because they hadn’t started anything serious, and she thought he would have left her if she told him. Who is wrong?
#6. Yuusuf and Imani
Imani and Yuusuf had been together for nine months when Yuusuf’s ex-wife crawled out of the blues asking to go on a coffee date with him. Yuusuf and his ex-wife had a nasty divorce and haven’t spoken or seen each other since the divorce. Yuusuf wants to get some closure and some apology too. Imani doesn’t think this is necessary as it’s been a while, and she tells Yuusuf that she would be annoyed if he did. Yuusuf promised not to, but Imani later found out that he had secretly gone. Who is wrong?
#7. Ayotunde and Ene
Ayotunde is an introvert, likes to keep to himself, and doesn’t like to go out often. He’s been together with Ene, an extrovert and a party crasher for four years. Due to their gleaning differences, Ene goes out by herself most times but always tries to coerce Ayotunde to go with her. She would like to share her passions with her relationship partner. This time around, Ene has her best friend’s birthday party coming up soon, and she’s been trying to get Ayotunde to go with her. He blatantly refuses, but she understands and decides to go alone. However, after the party, she comes back to find out that Ayotunde has gone out to hang with the boys. Who is wrong?
#8. Femi and Nala
Nala and Femi have finally decided to move in together after being in a relationship for over a year. They decide to buy a house together. However, the issue of the right neighborhood came up. Nala likes her privacy and told Femi that she would prefer a quiet and serene environment. Femi goes house scouting but makes a down payment for a house in a noisy and nosy neighborhood without informing Nala. When she finds out, he tells her that the house is what he could afford. Nala insists that she wouldn’t mind staying apart if he insists on staying in that neighborhood. Who is wrong?
#9. Abidemi and Abedo
Abebo and her husband, Abidemi, are full-time employees and rarely have time for each other. It gets worse when Abebo gets laid off from her workplace, and Abidemi takes on double shifts and another job to keep up with bills and their lifestyle while Abebo stays home to take care of the kids. Their relationship and intimacy take a blow for this, and Abebo begins to text and see other men. Abidemi confronts her, and she blames him for her cheating, saying that he hasn’t had her time in months and she doesn’t feel loved or wanted. Who is wrong?