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😲 Another Reader with flames.🔥 There is no such thing as earning the right to cheat.
You decide to cheat or not, regardless of whether or not the planet may sympathize with the reasons/excuses you give as to why you have decided to cheat.
When you cheat, you will be breaking a vow of fidelity and destroying trust between you and your partner. This is true regardless of your reasons/excuses and whom ever else may agree with your decision to cheat.
Why? Because to ‘cheat’ is to ‘lie’/‘deceive’/‘mislead’/‘betray’. If you think you have earned the right to step out on your partner, why not discuss this with them, inform them you plan to step out on them and who you will be doing it with – if you do this your partner may be broken-hearted but you did not lie or mislead. In this case it simply means you have changed the boundaries of your relationship, and it is up to them to agree to this new format or not. There is no such thing as earning the right to cheat.
You decide to cheat or not, regardless of whether or not the planet may sympathize with the reasons/excuses you give as to why you have decided to cheat.
When you cheat, you will be breaking a vow of fidelity and destroying trust between you and your partner. This is true regardless of your reasons/excuses and whom ever else may agree with your decision to cheat.
Why? Because to ‘cheat’ is to ‘lie’/‘deceive’/‘mislead’/‘betray’. If you think you have earned the right to step out on your partner, why not discuss this with them, inform them you plan to step out on them and who you will be doing it with – if you do this your partner may be broken-hearted but you did not lie or mislead. In this case it simply means you have changed the boundaries of your relationship, and it is up to them to agree to this new format or not.
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😲 You don’t want to imagine what one of our readers said about this topic. For centuries the men had this “right” …. We discuss who made them think they had this right for another day 😂😂
Make I use example make my point – Every time I have been to Chateau de Versailles I can’t help but shake my head and wonder. Louis XIV made it “official” …. his madam was helpless and Pa King was so bold that he even had mini palaces in that same compound for his various concubines!!! 😳😳😳
King Solomon be get na how many chéries again? 😳😳
So if men have been doing this for centuries, and since love can’t be forced (it is a decision/choice we each make to love someone, fall in love or fall out of love)….. so since everyone has needs there is no need to “chain” someone in a relationship wherein the mutual benefits and joys are lacking!
We often cringe at the word “cheating” but relationships should be mutually beneficial AND requires constant ongoing work from both parties.
The work to keep relationships alive no get end date …. Na every day that pot get for day for fire …. Na every day way Pa get for say “Abu come sit down make I rub those tired feet”, na everyday way “please” and “thank you” and “how was your day” etc etc get for be.
When we stop making each other a priority …. When real dialogue is non existent…… when we refuse counseling or help ….. whenever we are indeed no longer a priority for each other, trouble comes in and the longer the trouble drags on the easier it is to fill voids 😳😳 ….. AND the void-filler could be anything …. Some
Will start drinking or gardening or take a new class or travel or eat nonstop or become gym addicts or ……. Cheat!!!!!!! Na true I talk … 😂😂 That is why things like “irreconcilable differences” exist and some end in divorce court or just pack their cargo back to their papa/mami compound eh 😂😂
So short answer Mami Mira …. Short answer na “it’s complicated” but since “it’s complicated” no day for y’a list the true answer na “YES”. I never talk say make any person try am …. I just di answer na Kweshon as posed and using the available answers 😂😂
Chineke!!!
Na who that di find stone 🪨🪨🪨🪨 😳😳😳
For centuries the men had this “right” …. We discuss who made them think they had this right for another day 😂😂
Make I use example make my point – Every time I have been to Chateau de Versailles I can’t help but shake my head and wonder. Louis XIV made it “official” …. his madame was helpless and Pa King was so bold that he even had mini palaces in that same compound for his various concubines!!! 😳😳😳
King Solomon be get na how many chéries again? 😳😳
So if men have been doing this for centuries, and since love can’t be forced (it is a decision/choice we each make to love someone, fall in love or fall out of love)….. so since everyone has needs there is no need to “chain” someone in a relationship wherein the mutual benefits and joys are lacking!
We often cringe at the word “cheating” but relationships should be mutually beneficial AND requires constant ongoing work from both parties.
The work to keep relationships alive no get end date …. Na every day that pot get for day for fire …. Na every day way Pa get for say “Abu come sit down make I rub those tired feet”, na everyday way “please” and “thank you” and “how was your day” etc etc get for be.
When we stop making each other a priority …. When real dialogue is non existent…… when we refuse counseling or help ….. whenever we are indeed no longer a priority for each other, trouble comes in and the longer the trouble drags on the easier it is to fill voids 😳😳 ….. AND the void-filler could be anything …. Some
Will start drinking or gardening or take a new class or travel or eat nonstop or become gym addicts or ……. Cheat!!!!!!! Na true I talk … 😂😂 That is why things like “irreconcilable differences” exist and some end in divorce court or just pack their cargo back to their papa/mami compound eh 😂😂So short answer Mami Mira …. Short answer na “it’s complicated” but since “it’s complicated” no day for y’a list the true answer na “YES”. I never talk say make any person try am …. I just di answer na Kweshon as posed and using the available answers 😂😂
Chineke!!!
Na who that di find stone 😳😳😳
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Some of our readers shared a shocking view on this issue of cheating. It gets me wondering, should there be a reason to backup cheating in a committed relationship? Read what some of our readers also think, but then share your opinion about this. https://africanvibes.com/discussion-can-a-man-or-woman-in-a-committed-relationship-earn-the-right-to-cheat/https://africanvibes.com/discussion-can-a-man-or-woman-in-a-committed-relationship-earn-the-right-to-cheat/
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Wow this is a very analytical response.
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Ok Sir. Does this mean if you are given an opportunity to go to the west for greener pastures you wont go? Will you reject the offer and stay back to develop your continent?
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This is a very insightful response. The most important thing i got from your response is, actions before complaining which is very vital. But then what if the different African countries lack resources to evacuate their citizens out of the crisis zone. This brings me to this question, Do African countries have allocated funds reserved for situations like this?
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🔥 This is great sir. You have virtually outlined facts. But then who is responsible for all the steps you have listed above.
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Wow, This is a great response. But then thinking, should a country’s investment in human resources be dependent only on their governments for the country’s development?
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This is fire🔥 But then some people who are being cheated on in relationships don’t even know how to walk away. There is actually a tribe in Cameroon, Africa the permits cheating for men. How would you advice someone in a relationship with someone who is culturally tied to such open relationship?🤔
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🔥Its better to walk away from a relationship than cheating.🔥 Wow. But then i heard a story of a guy who said that he loves two girls equally and doesn’t want to let any of them go. He said what if he lives one and the other one breaks his heart later?😲 in this case who then should walk away from the relationship?🤔
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🔥 This is getting hotter. Based on the statement that a woman should honor the husband by letting him head the home. But then, what is the definition of heading the home? What does heading the home really look like?
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🤩what a powerful statement. Women use their new found independence to belittle men.
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🔥 Wow a society that indulges in unhealthy comparison. which means there is more to the increase rates of divorce than the woman forgetting her place.
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Awesome, it has to do with both parties reconciling their differences. But then who always gets left with no choice but to let go their dreams, their own passions for the sake of the home? someone makes the highest sacrifice for that. Most women will say they gave up their education, job, business just to take care of their home. Who gets to make the most sacrifice?
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This is good insight. you have made a great point here🤩 Does this mean that the issue here is not women not knowing their place in their homes, but comparison between a man and a woman?
on your point of women who tend to be bossy when they are earning more than their husbands, could we say this is the reason why some men say women have forgotten their place in their homes?