ok I’ve been reading this thread and I just need to say one thing.

coolio said “most women in that situation would have pushed through.”

That sentence right there is why women are running themselves into the ground. Because we have convinced ourselves that pushing through is a virtue. That showing up half dead is what good wives do.

Ngozi came down. She sat with them for TWO hours on 5 hours of sleep. And we are still here debating whether she did enough??

Her husband failed her. Full stop. Everything else is noise.