I hear the pushback, and I expected it. But nobody has actually answered the real question here.

When you marry someone you marry their family too. That is not a Nigerian thing, that is just what marriage is. His mother is not a stranger. She is not an inconvenience. She is his mother.

I am not saying Ngozi had to cook. I am not saying she had to entertain for hours. I said 20 minutes. A greeting. That is all.

And @chichi , yes I will say it again. Most women I know, my wife included, would have found a way. Not because they are doormats. Because they understand that some things matter beyond how you feel in the moment.